The ideas behind it
Matched by phase of life, not just age.
A 41-year-old with toddlers and a 41-year-old with an empty nest live very different weeks. Phase of life says more about whether you'll click than a birth year does, especially for friendship.
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What phase of life covers
Relationship status
Single, dating, married or partnered, divorced or separated, widowed. Married and partnered members are matched for friendship, groups and mentoring only.
Kids' ages
No kids, little ones, school age, teenagers, grown. Parents of kids the same age share a calendar.
Work
Student, working full time, part time, self-employed or retired. It shapes when you're free and what's on your mind.
How much it matters
You choose. For some people a similar phase is everything; for others it barely matters.
Why age is a light touch
For dating, you set an age range. For friends, age only gently nudges the match after a ten-year gap, and never rules anyone out. Mentoring ignores age entirely.
That's on purpose. Some of the best friendships cross a decade or two, especially when the circumstances line up.
Questions
Does phase of life matter for dating?
Your answers about children, marriage history and the future you want carry into romance through your goals. Phase of life is weighted most for friends.
I'm married. Can I still use Zydeby?
Yes, for friends, group nights and mentoring. The romance side is off, which protects the people you'd be matched with.
Keep exploring
Your first match could be this week.
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